'Do you want to do an activity tonight?'
If your concern is that the child is too sedentary, do not comment about weight or size. Focus on finding joyful activities that include movement.
If your concern is about your child’s health or weight, raise this concern with your child’s healthcare professional. If you do so, we strongly recommend you talk with the doctor privately, and ask that the doctor not talk with your child about their weight, BMI, or growth chart. Instead, request the conversation be focused on all-around health, not appearance. If your doctor recommends lifestyle changes, it is important that the child is not singled out as the one needing to make changes. Instead, incorporate the changes as part of your entire family’s health.
If the child isn’t yours, say nothing. Even seemingly harmless comments can have a lasting impact on a child’s life.